Virtue signalling

It seems to be a new virus infecting society.

Social media and political correctness are the super spreaders of this nonsense and it is a poison.

For you to understand what I mean you need to understand something about me.

I, Annetta Mother Smith, am not a nice person. I am not politically correct and I try to limit my social media (Instagram and Facebook time to 0) this allows me to live a somewhat protected life. But the most important thing you need to understand is. I am not a nice person. I’ve said it twice, I won’t say it again.

I am a person who is filled with love and joy, but it is not my job to make you comfortable. In fact I glory in the opposite. Everything good comes from discomfort. Therefore I challenge people. In my job. In my highest self. I challenge others. I also lift others up. Because challenge without support is hollow. I have left so many jobs because I have found that too many straight white males have been taught wit rather than intelligence. So they make a cutting remark to bring someone down and it sounds super smart in the moment and makes sense, however when you sit down and think about it, you go “Wait? That statement was complete BS????” But we let them get away with it because it sounded good at the time. They said it with such conviction that you couldn’t help but be mesmerised and caught in their lies. And they only need to delay in getting caught. That gives them a chance to escape. Escape the consequences of their actions.

Same with virtue signalling, It is the art of someone pretending to be your friend, but in fact they aren’t. They are “telling you” they are your friend, but actually, how many times have you been told by your actual friends repeatedly. “I am your friend, I am your friend, I AM YOUR FRIEND!!” if you didn’t know what a Judas is, then honey, that person is it. A real friend will show you that they are your friend, they won’t go around telling you (or everybody.) friend is an action, and a choice, its not a statement. It’s a fluid thing you can friend and unfriend in life, so it is a choice.

The problem with virtue signalling is that people only do it because its in vouge. If boiling puppies is in vouge, they will do that too. If racism and anti semitism is in vouge then they’ll do it too. It shows people who are “sheep” and are “following the crowds” and not actually thinking critically and independently for themselves. And we all do it. After George Flloyd, so many white corporations have flooded the media with positive black stereotypes. Black man doing parenting, black love scenarios. Watch those people. they are not your friends they want to appear to be your friends to service your bottom line, but when the next ideology comes along, they are going to rush to be a part of that too. Leaving you cold. Leaving you bare, and betrayed. The same with people. People on the internet, people in real life, giving to charity so they can be seen giving to charity, not because they feel particularly strongly about the cause. Its just the latest craze.

Something I learnt from my previous marriage was the difference between looking right and being right. My first husband looked right. He was the stereotypical “good guy” but he was abusive towards me and I lived in fear of him. But to the outside world I put on a brave face and said all the right things until my divorce when people were shocked because “They never knew we had problems” Yes, because I was a minister’s daughter and as a result I am a professional at smoothing things over and saying I am fine when I am not.  He looked like a good guy but also I knew there was something “not quite right” about him. Why would anyone go to such lengths to convince people that they are good? A little too much.

Then there is my second husband who I now focus on how he treats me. He needs to act right. Because his actions will be what I am living with forever. I’d like to be attracted to him as well. But the most important part is his actions. Because I’m in my 30’s. Looking for a man who will be in his late 30’s early 40’s (when men actually sober up and try and settle down) and I have to be realistic. I’m only going to be attracted to him for a few years before things start to go south for him, the rock hard abs become soft as does that jawline. So I need a man whose character keeps me in thrall. Because beauty, is skin deep (also I find that men try to get married only when they are at the cusp of going to seed so women get a few good years with an attractive husband then they end up with a balding old man. (Look at Prince William)

Anyway, people who try hard to be your friends are always the fakest. Look out for them. Don’t believe the hype. Slow and steady wins the real race of life.

Grace and Courage.

Annetta Mother Smith.