Sex sells

I bet the title made you click on this? Pervert. Just kidding, your conditioning isn’t your fault.

Following on from my “oh my goodness, you are a pervert” and “adulthood na scam” posts, I feel very strongly about the highly sexualised way we live in society.

I believe as a society we are getting more perverted. Sex is a normal healthy way to spend a few minutes of the day. We spend hours being exposed to sexualised content. Videogames, movies, porn, music any sort of media.

I remember as a kid I watched Sailor Moon. How come in Manga and Anime (yes I know the difference between the 2) there is a universal bust size for a woman? Look at all the major characters, they’re all DD cups at least. Me and my C cups can go hang. Ditto comic books and videogames.

Then there is porn. I had an uncle who used to buy the Sun newspaper. His eldest son would hoard the newspaper for the “page 3 girls” I believe we were between 8-11 when I viewed his collection. This kid was a year younger than me, so would have been 7-10 i.e. pre pubescent, but what he learnt was that pretty girls take their clothes off for money and attention. Very healthy message to give to our sons. Porn, without being leftist, is just people who aren’t having sex being “Peeping Tom’s” at people who are. Which is weird right? But its all manufactured. These women are screaming at the top of their lungs, butt naked in a room full of probably 5-10 highly desensitised people. No one is enjoying it. It probably isn’t healthy for the people making it either.

Music videos I have already covered. It makes absolutely no sense why we sexualise women (especially black women.) in music videos. Ginormous assets. Absolutely huge. But none of them are the woman’s vocal chords. Again, me and my C cups can go hang. But it bleeds into society with women aiming to be “skinny thick” and doing all sorts of work on themselves. Meanwhile men just have to “be good at singing/rapping” and therefore there is very little bleed into culture.

One thing that men do do that bleeds into culture is the concept of multiple women. Look at any music video that isn’t on the subject of love, the man has multiple women, many options. However a woman normally is singing about her sexual submission and is being extraordinarily sexual with one man. What they are teaching us is that a beautiful woman should be faithful and loyal to one man. But a “high value man” should and can have multiple women. And when in 20 years the children of these single parent homes start entering the workforce we will begin to reap what we sow. What we are essentially fostering is “chief” mentality, when the richest guy in the village commanded respect and how he did that was to assert dominance, but he did so by asserting sexual dominance and having his pick of all the women in the village. Make no mistake, the average guy in Africa has 1 wife, because he can only afford 1 wife and can only satisfy one wife. They’re not running around like chiefs because they aren’t. Ever heard of the phrase “all chief’s no Indians?” It is neither desirable nor practical for a man to have multiple women. We are 7 Billion and counting, we don’t need you populating the earth further, especially with children that are going to be broken. Calm yourself.

As I have said previously, society has spent too long catering for bottom feeders. But it is becoming a race to the bottom now women are becoming wealthy and influential. Have you seen hen nights? Doing shots on a man’s chest? “ you are sick, that’s someone’s son, someone’s grandson with a cherished year 1 picture with his teeth missing. Same with the porn stars. Society needs to buck up before we loose our innocence forever. Stop sexualising little girls and boys. Stop talking about sex like it’s the be all and end all and going to “pick up” someone for sex like they are a pizza or a prostitute is not healthy language. I hardly believe that the condoms and nappy industry are in a secret lobbying effort to ensure we all have sex without thought to the consequences and then end up using their products one way or another. But sometimes it feels like it.

We need to frow up. We need to all be the adults that our children can seek comfort and protection. Not the adults that children need to be protected from.

As I said, we need to deleverage sex. Only when it is seen as a pleasant way of spending a few minutes, akin to having a cup of tea and a biscuit can we see it for what it is. A primary method of procreation which can be pleasurable between 2 consenting parties. By deleveraging sex, we can remove the power it has over us in terms of religious guilt, buying things we don’t need because we’re drawn to sexual images and the perversion of society and the negative impact its having on children.

Don’t get me wrong, this will not solve the problem of sexual deviancy. It will not rid the world of paedophiles, it however does tone down the rhetoric and removes power from these people. I feel we are getting to the point where as a society we’re almost catering exclusively to them. Sexualising children so paedophiles’ feel like their perversions  are normal rather than seeking help they feel emboldened to act on their deviancy.

People who are deviant not having to ask permission to look at or consume sexualised content. Because they then stop believing they are deviant. Then there are people with VERY weird sexual preferences, who may not be deviant. I believe deviants are the peeping Tom’s and the rapists. People with weird sexual needs are people who are operating form a place of pain, and are trying to heal via sex. e.g. guys who like to be humiliated in the bedroom have that as a limiting belief and should seek therapy not sex. We need to get away from the idea that a woman’s various holes can heal a man. Healing starts in the mind. Get Therapy. Experience true freedom of the mind.

I feel sad for a society where as soon as you get a little bit of power you need to lord it over all of us and especially in the bedroom. We need to introspect and find out what this madness is costing us. It may well be our souls. Definitely our innocence.

Grace and Courage.

Annetta Mother Smith.