I really don’t care
I want to introduce you to this thing called BILLS.
Every month, I have to balance things I need with things I want. Allow me to give you an example.
· I need to eat at least once per day. I actually eat twice not 3 times per day.
· I need shelter of my home so I feel safe. I need that home heat because I don’t generate a lot of heat within my body.
· I need water to drink.
Everything else, even when it seems like it’s a necessity (e.g. internet) is a bonus. I then have to balance things I want to do, with things that are necessary. As a result, there is a lot of “month” left after my money.
Because of this fact I occupy myself keeping body and soul together, not worrying about who identifies as what.
So allow me to be clear.
· Man wants to identify as woman? Doesn’t affect me.
· Woman wants to identify as man? Doesn’t affect me.
· Men loving men? Doesn’t affect me.
· Women loving women? Doesn’t affect me.
· Man dressing as woman? Welcome to the “Beauty is pain club” yet it still…Doesn’t affect me.
· Woman dressing up as man? Doesn’t affect me.
Gender and sex.
· Should we teach children about gender in the various roles? Post puberty. Let’s let them get a sense of self first.
· Should we love and respect another person for who they are regardless of their sex or gender? Unequivocal yes.
· Should we use the respected pronouns with the same casualness as if they’d asked us to call them Alexander rather than Alex? Yes. A little kindness goes a long way and remember you reap what you sow, so try sowing some respect and decency in the world.
· Should we teach children about sex before they are pubescent? No, they’ll spend the rest of their life worrying and thinking about sex, please let them have the first decade in peace.
Should we teach children that they are God’s creation and that no matter what they chose in this life they are loved and special and cherished? (providing their parents are theists) Absolutely, the problem with the LGBTQ+ community is because no one cherished them. No one told them that they were special and important and that their sexuality doesn’t define them, that their soul defines them, whether or not they treat others with humanity and respect defines them.
Name how many funerals you have been to where they mention the deceased’s body count and the genders of the deceased’s body count? No? Has that never happened to you? So why do we let that define people? I honestly don’t care, but I do find it deeply entertaining/concerning that so many Americans get so worked up about sex.
Do you know what that means? It means if you are busy mouthing off about sex, you aren’t busy having any sex. The ones who are having sex are happy. You are clearly not and that’s why your punishing the world for your unhappiness.
On the other side, with the LGBTQ+ community. Allow me to offer some wisdom. Much as I’d like to talk about horses and water the more relevant truism I have found is as follows.
“Do not argue with an idiot. He will bring you down to his level and beat you with experience.”
If you were unclear as to what I meant there it is as follows. Save your energy. We get one life and you’re not going to remember all the idiots you “bested” online. Instead you will remember sunsets with your bestie.
What I am no longer able to accept in 2022 is that we have people literally dying over this. People who feel so marginalised they have ended their lives. God weeps you know, and he weeps for every one of his kids dies because cruel trolls on the internet or on the street refuse to mind their own business. Life is too short and too precious to worry what anyone else is doing.
Should we give children hormones to reassign their gender. No, I don’t agree with giving drugs to kids of any kind. My kids are going to get even Calpol sparingly because I believe that kids should be exposed to germs and diseases and then fight them naturally to get immunity. But that’s my kids. They can identify as whatever they like but they don’t get to make permanent decisions until 18. Just like my kids won’t be allowed to decide on tattoos until 18. No permanent decisions.
I believe drugs shouldn’t be given to kids to make life changing decisions until they are 18. I believe they should be adults and consent fully. I believe they can dress and identify themselves as whatever they want, can have as many or few pronouns as they like, as long as we don’t drug these children. Why? Because as I have said, we haven’t done 40 year studies on gender reassignment drugs as an adolescent and I feel deeply uncomfortable using someone’s God given child as a guinea pig. Adults only.
You’ll notice that the majority of things don’t affect me, and I only draw any sort of line with children because I believe kids should be able to consent to all manner of things once they are adults but can’t give full consent as child.
When it comes to boys wearing dresses. Let them. For heavens’ sake. We teach kids what is right and wrong based on what we flip out about. Many cultures men wear skirts or some sort of dress type outfit, and are super manly.
· Roman togas? Essentially dresses.
· Kilts? Literally there to show off a man’s calves. (I’m sure that there’s some traditional meaning there too)
· Middle eastern attire? Essentially a single piece dress with trousers underneath, same for African male traditional attire for west Africa. Very manly very masculine.
Are any of these men not male because of their dresses? Nope?
Rappers wear jewellery are they women? Nope.
I feel like we demonise boys for wearing dresses yet girls literally wear trousers every single day and no one bats an eyelid. What is the message here? Girls can do whatever they want, boys are repressed.
Repressed little boys become dangerous men. Dangerous to themselves and to society. Why don’t we just let them wear the damn Frozen outfit? Boy or Girl in 20 years we all regret our childhood fashion choices, why are we so against it? To carry on the metaphor. Make like Frozen and let it go. There’s a war on.
Speaking of children. There is the matter of abortion.
I personally believe life begins at conception, I’m on the implant which means that I have suppressed ovulation and I stopped sperm getting to my non-existent egg. What you didn’t see was me writing a full blown mea culpa to my children for terminating them at days old because I thought it meant that I wasn’t allowing them to attach to my womb. Its another effect but if there is no egg/sperm then I’m morally in the clear. I am however getting this evil thing out of me as soon as possible. I want to be clear here, contraception as a whole is not bad. This just really hasn’t worked for me and the pandemic has meant I have had it 6 months longer than recommended.
The reason I believe life begins at conception is.
1. I always root for the underdog and a foetus is completely a dependent until it becomes a baby and even then, it is completely helpless for several years.
2. I am soft hearted, and I believe in the “what could have been” what if I killed the person who would go on to cure cancer? Scenario.
3. I don’t have any other yardstick as to when life begins, to anyone else who says “its at 12 weeks, its at 20 weeks, its at birth” it all feels arbitrary.
4. Basically, the difference between a baby and a foetus is how the mother and/or father feels about it.
I personally don’t judge women for getting abortions. I really don’t care, it doesn’t affect me. Each to their own as long as you can live with yourself, it is none of my business. I’m pro choice because I believe I have never been put in the situations that would make me want to do such as thing so I won’t rob others of a choice I pray to God I will never have to make. So, I beg you, if you are not going through it, please don’t judge another person.
I would like to refute the “my body my choice argument though” I believe that if a woman has weighed the pros and cons of having that child and carrying it to term, that the woman in her right mind can and should do it for any reason she sees fit.
I do not agree with the “my body my choice” argument because you aren’t killing yourself. A termination is a termination of the baby, not the mother. You have to go through the medical procedure which is itself horrific however you don’t end up in a medical waste bag without a proper funeral. Therefore, it isn’t your body you are dealing with, it is your babies. I always think of it as if you are having a son, the person that is being aborted is male, whilst the person signing for it is female. 2 different genders and 2 different people. It gives clarity. To me at least.
But there is a difference between I personally disagree and what I want for you. What I personally believe in is what will happen to my kids. So they’ll be running around in the dirt, scraped knees and catching colds all over the place.
What I want for you is the best for your kids. If that means that you want to teach them gender norms at 5 then that’s fine. If your kids have different pronouns than mine. Please remind me, but I will try my best to be respectful. Why? Because God made you in his image and if you start to feel ugly for any cruelty I have laid upon you then I am destroying the beauty of God’s creation. Be yourself, to be honest, no one really cares. They’ve got bills to pay and if they do care then they are idle and you shouldn’t listen to them anyway.
People get super emotional regarding things that don’t concern them. Don’t. Take the bass out of your voice. I love how emotional we get when it comes to women’s reproductive rights, the rights of LGBTQ+ people and who should use which bathroom. Yet no one gives a damn that big corporations are pumping literal sewage into the seas, lakes and rivers that we all get our water from. Or that we have 3-15 years before we’ve done irreversible damage to an entire planet whose vastness we can’t comprehend and that we actually all die as a consequence.
But men shouldn’t kiss other men, right?
Grace and Courage.
Annetta Mother Smith.