God better humble you before I do….

Because I’ll send you to him in a matchstick case…

Warning to all married women (including a previous version of myself) who wish to give me advice. If God sends me one more fool I will start a conveyor belt to send them back to him 1st class express delivery.

So today I was at a wedding of all places. And the disaster of a service pandered to the “African men are animals who only need food and sex” and “Jesus will help you fix him” argument. I believe if you encourage men (or anyone) on that nonsense you will reap what you sow and if you infantilise men you will be raising your “son” all your life. You can’t have a man who is no better than a beast being a leader of your household. He can’t be trusted not to cheat but you entrust the strategic finances to him? Fool. So I will only marry a man who understands that his life’s work is to please me and nothing else. And that he’ll be working like a dog for it. Forever.

20 years from now you and I will compare fruits. Your marriage will have humbled you looking ragged meanwhile mine will strengthen me.

Your marriage sounds like a picture from Dante’s inferno. The 7th circle of hell. I thought marriage was about love? But if you wish to suffer until the hereafter to be a “traditional wife” don’t give me advice on “how to be a fool 101” already taken the class… dropped out.

They say when you want to boil a toad you don’t put it in hot water. Put it in cold water and then slowly heat it.

That’s how you live. Slowly boiling. I can see you live in hell. You can’t yet. But you will.

That is why my prayer for you is.

May God humble you before I do.

Grace and courage.

Annetta Mother-Smith.