The cult of La Femme

Dear God have mercy on us all for the cruelty we inflict upon ourselves via the internet.

I pray I am not a version of cruelty you inflict on yourself. If so I have utterly and abjectly failed.

So lets talk about the cult of femininity and feminine energy because make no mistake, it is a cult.

I have myself written about masculine and feminine energy. Feminine energy is more receptive and masculine energy is more leading. That’s the broad brush strokes of it and women can be masculine and men can be feminine and that is how they are created and that difference is not only healthy but to be celebrated as long as its true to character.

So please heaven and hell explain to me why we have grown women high key manipulating other women into “the feminine cult” it seems to be a reactionary response to the “feminism” cult, yet it weirdly is populated by alpha females just like in the feminism cult. So where do us chilled out beta females go?

I find it so weird watching various alpha females on the internet talking in hushed tones about how feminine they are and how they light candles and go for walks and sit in their “feminine energy”

As someone who does light candles, go for walks but is naturally feminine and doesn’t need to “sit” in anything, I find their pretension corrosive.

They are trying to be someone they are not. They are trying to be me. I’m flattered thank you.

However pretension of any type is dangerous and unwarranted. They have noticed that men dislike dominant women who overpower them and are trying to manipulate men into thinking that they are a woman like me. A gentle gentlelady.

So, to paraphrase Jay Z “if you having boy problems, I feel bad for you son, I have 99 problems being a bitch ain’t one.”

Get off the internet trying to be me. Why don’t you love yourself enough to be you? All these men you are tricking with your “feminine energy” how long do you think your little games will last? What happens when you have kids and you can’t keep up the pretence, and the man “discovers” that you are very dominant and he is a dominant? You have wasted years of your life pretending to be someone you are not, you have children and probably a very ugly breakup/divorce on your hands.

All the while keeping me from my true husband. Selfish.

Now this isn’t to say that just because you are an assertive woman you can’t enjoy candles and clothes and walks. But that isn’t what the cult is for. The cult is to attract the gaze of men. For him to see you doing all these pretty things and think “she’s so feminine, I want to pursue her, possess her, then propose marriage to her"

You don’t need to be taught via YouTube how to be into things you are genuinely into. You don’t need to be taught how to suck eggs. If you are feminine, you are feminine. You don’t need reminding how feminine you are because femininity is a relative scale. You line up 100 females who identify as feminine and you will find their habits similar, you will also find out that there is a sliding scale, where some are more assertive than others. If you put 100 feminine women and a 100 masculine men in a room you’d find a similar sliding scale. All is healthy, all is welcomed. But just as the cult of masculinity is teaching betas to be alphas which is similarly destructive to society, alpha women are teaching alpha women to be beta so they can attract alpha males.

The problem with this is it is helping no one. If everyone is putting on an artificice then we all lose because it messes with everyone’s powers of discernment.

Men are looking for a feminine woman and those who aren’t paying attention are easily bamboozled by a woman falsely waving “green flags”

Softly spoken? Check

Likes candles? Check

Likes long walks? Check

Definitely feminine.

But femininity is how you treat everyone in everyday life. Pleases and thank you’s instead of demands and rudeness? Feminine

Taking time to empathise and rather than jumping to conclusions with no evidence? Feminine.

Humbly accepting you don’t have all the answers rather than ramming your point of view down someone’s throat? Feminine.

You can’t teach that. You need to be that.

The cult of the feminine to me looks like a glorified “Pick me” she wants to attract men with certain qualities so she pretends she’s okay with things she’s not and is into things she actually isn’t.

Be yourself. You are good enough as you are.

Grace and Courage.

Annetta Mother Smith.