Inbred servitude.
Thursday I spoke with my aunt. I don’t speak with my aunt… I was only speaking with her to offer her a FREE trip to Paris I am willing to fund. But I had to ask my aunt in a way that was the same tone you would use to ask for permission to go out and play with your cousin at 8 years old.
“Dear auntie, please may I spend £2k making memories with you and doing more for you than you have ever done for me in my entire life especially when I needed you most when my father died?”
“Please may I pay for a free trip to Paris for in 6 months which involves incredible amounts of foreplanning meanwhile the entire family didn’t so much as lift a finger for me? With far more notice?”
One thing about me is that I am an incredibly focussed person and a master manifestor. I get what I want.
I am also all about planning. I went to Freetown, the family had 8 months notice, no one did jack, when I showed up that’s when they decided they liked me and they wanted to spend time with me.
My aunt is coming and i am planning a Paris trip 6 months in advance.
My cousin I booked her hotels 3 months in advance.
Other aunts and uncles I both disliked their company but also didn’t like the financial imposition, but still did things for them. Most people consider it a whole deal to call me on my birthday. This is the family that if I needed someone.… I’d call them??? To do what? When my dad died they couldn’t even care enough to check? You are adults? And I have only just realised that I am one too.
Being the same age as my aunts and uncles brothers and father when they make decisions, is wild. You realise how the bar is in hell. But to maintain the facade, of respect I have to be humble. Mainly because I am unmarried. God help me when I marry. I plan to be insufferable.
Then I gave my grandma money as a olive branch because she’s been doing her job as a grandmother and actually calling me and checking in on me.
I said (in British) I am glad you liked the gift, i.e. (this is all I can do to show affection, I am glad you have taken it in the spirit it was offered)
“Of course I like money” (I am happy you sent me money, which shows as my granddaughter you are financially successful enough to be generous to me, the grandmother that has done nothing for you)
That’s the joys of a living in a subtext of you and your family speak both different languages and live in different cultures.
Grace and Courage
Annetta Mother Smith